Factors that influence the decision of mentally challenged person

__________JJ Thiret__________ in reading about you, you like to emphasize on insight in self awareness which I think is awesome and empowerment and if you could show us a little bit more about that piece first. __________Dr. Cheryl Arutt__________ The insight piece is necessary but not sufficient for change. I think that first of all, people need to understand something because if they just stop doing what they are doing and they don't understand why they keep finding themselves in the same kind of predicament you know with the different day is the same problem that it will keep sort of hops catching around. But you have people who look at the inside of the why as an excuse for well, I can't do this because you know this happen to me or you know they paralyze themselves for that. And that I don't think is very helpful. So you look at two people who might say you know one might say I drink because my father drink. And so one might say I don't drink because my father drink. Some circumstance, different choice. So I think, first, people need to understand in an insightful way what there you know what accommodation they may be making to try to feel safer or navigate some obstacle that they have. Look at some better options but then they need to actually implement different behavior if they want to get a different result. __________JJ Thiret__________ The insight is a good thing and I think what I heard you saying is that people often use that, "Oh that's why. You know why the way I am? It's because my father used to beat me. I figure that out with Dr. Cheryl and because she left me in the closet, that's why I have abandonment issues." __________Dr. Cheryl Arutt__________ Some people call that paralysis through analysis. You know if people stay there then the thing that we tend to start looking at is what do you gain by holding on to this now? That is not happening now. __________JJ Thiret__________ But for those that do why would you think that they stay that way and why they like that "victim" stamped on there. What they are crying out or something? __________Dr. Cheryl Arutt__________ I don't think it's so ... it's a good question. I don't think it's so much to feel like that 'victim" stamp. It's that ... and it can look that from the outside. But I think that for that person, in their assessment of their situation, the idea of letting go of something that they can hold on too, to step (?) the wood of the unknown for all they know could be way worst that the devil they know. They gonna cling for their live because change is too scary and I think that is usually why it's hard sometimes to let go and look what else is possible.